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You know, I think I can just give up on March right now.  Let's review:

March 1:  Ellie gets admitted to hospital.  Diagnosed with Reactive Airway disease.
March 2:  Ellie spends the entire day in the hospital and is eventually released (admittedly this is a bonus).  That night is not a great night.
March 3:  I get rear ended.  My husband's car breaks down in B'more.
March 4:  Abby gets really sick.  Like, I almost took HER to the emergency room kind of sick. 
March 5:  Abby still sick.  Ellie still getting nebulizer treatments.  But at least I'm back from work.
March 6: Hallelujah!  Ellie's back to normal.  Abby's on the mend.  I'm totally exhausted, but no one is in crisis.
March 7:  Lovely day, guests for lunch, fun walk with the triplets in the afternoon.  All good.
March 8:  All hell broke lose in the morning.  I did not handle it well.  The afternoon redeemed itself.

Which brings us to yesterday.

We knew we had a plumbing issue because the last quarter of 2008 our water bill was near $700 (our normal quarterly water bill is ~$130).   Our sump pump has been running regularly, which it has never done in the 4 1/2 years we have lived in our house.  Never.  Not once.  Not even in torrential downpour that has flooded all the other neighborhood basemements.    We had our handyman out to check to see if there was a problem inside the house.  Nope.  No problem.  He shut off all the water and noticed that he could still hear water coming in the pipe into the house.  He walked around the house and found that, in fact, there was a soggy ground all around the side of our house, despite there having been no rain or snow in the several weeks prior.  He postulated that the pipe between the water meter and the house was broken.  But he doesn't fix that kind of problem.  The last time he knew someone with that kind of problem it was 5 or 6 years ago and it cost about $3K to fix.  Crap.

We had our water company come back out to confirm that there really was a problem.  Yes, Houston, we had a problem.  We are using a thousand gallons of water a day.  Clearly, there's a major leak somewhere.  In older houses like ours, they didn't, for whatever reason, put the water  meter at the front of the house where the plumbing was going to run into the house.  Rather, they put the water meter at the back of the house and ran the pipe all the way to the front.  65 feet of pipe where that leak could have happened.  Now we needed to find a master plumber.  That's where yesterday comes in.

We had two plumbers come out yesterday.  The first quote came in at $6500.  It would involve digging a 65 foot trench, 43 inches deep, and replacing the pipe, having it inspected, all the permits, closing up the trench, etc.  *gasp*  He could start Monday.    The second quote came in at $5850.  They have a different way of doing things…  they'll go through the masonry inside the house, and dig underground with an air piston for 62 feet and only dig for the last 3 feet to the meter.  This involves less damage to my yard, which is good since we spent a considerable amount of money regrading the yard and redoing the landscaping last Spring.  And of course, none of these costs cover the cost of redoing any of our landscaping after they destroy it.    They could start the next day (today, Tuesday).    We signed the contract and hired them.  Six thousand dollars.

Oh.  My.  Gawd.

 
Um, but on the plus side, no children in the hospital this week.  Right?  RIGHT?

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It’s been a difficult week, but there have been many upsides. 

First, the hospital visit:
The triplets have had a cold for about 10-12 days.  It was nothing more than a runny nose, so I didn’t think much of it.  But over the weekend, Ellie started coughing.  And coughing some more.  And then some more coughing.  That was Saturday.  Then Sunday the coughing got worse and was accompanied by a what I thought might be a little wheezing, but it wasn’t so bad.  And I thought, “Well, if it gets any worse, I’ll take her to the doctor tomorrow.  I’m sure she’s fine.”  Sunday evening, I put her to bed and she woke up within an hour coughing and crying, completely miserable.  She was definitely wheezing.  I paged the doctor on call (the doctor I don’t love), and told her what was going on and she said, “Well, there’s not a lot you can do for coughing other than steam treatments.  She might have an ear infection also, so you can try giving her Tylenol or ibuprofen and see if that helps.  Call me if it gets worse.”  But my baby!  My baby was wheezing.  I called my friend who’s a pediatrician down the block and told her what was going on.  She said she could listen to her, but if she was wheezing and really laboring to breathe, she needed to go to the emergency room.  Within an hour of having talked to my doctor-on-call, it was clear that my baby really couldn’t breathe.  So I called my doctor back, told her I was taking her to the ER, and left. 

We were seen immediately, and they immediately checked her pulseox, gave her steroids, albuterol via nebulizer, got a chest x-ray, gave her a thorough work up.  The first albuterol treatment helped a little, then she regressed.  The second albuterol treatment didn’t help at all.  The chest x-ray was pure misery.  They put my baby girl in this horrible medieval torture device that she hated and she raged against.  The x-ray technician thought she was going to break it, her rage made her so strong.  I secretly thanked heaven for her strength.  Strength and rage was better than lethargy.    Secretly, I didn’t blame her for raging against that contraption.  I would have, too.  The x-ray was consistent with an upper respiratory infection, but showed no signs of pneumonia.  She continued to wheeze, gasp for air, her pulseox continued to drop, so the ER doctor decided to admit her.

My poor baby.  My Eliana. 

Eliana means “Please, My God” (as in a prayer) or “My God has answered”  (we actually spell it the second way).  Though I was certain she would be fine, I was obviously praying for her to be fine.  My prayers were answered and she was released Monday evening.  Not without a little drama which I won’t relay here in the interests of time. 

She’s still on prednisone (almost done with that) and albuterol (every four hours until we decide she doesn’t need it).  And she’s been diagnosed with Reactive Airway Disease, and possibly asthma.  She’ll likely need nebulizer (albuterol) treatments every time she gets any sort of cough/upper respiratory virus for the long term.  But at least now we know what’s going on.  The virus she got this time could have been anything, just a cold, RSV, whatever.  They don’t know.  But for sure, the other triplets have it, too, but not to worry – to them, it shouldn’t be anything more than a bad cold/upper respiratory infection. 

Why Tuesday Sucked Mightily
After having gone 45 hours without sleep, I slept nearly 8 hours Monday night, which was miraculous.  Tuesday was a rush of activity – taking Ellie to the doctor, trying to squeeze in some work, etc.  Took J-man to speech therapy and on the way… *WHAM*  I was rear-ended.  No damage to my car, but my head started pounding immediately and my neck was really stiff.  Still, no harm, no foul.  Second time I’ve been rear-ended on my way to Speech Therapy in six weeks.  Sigh.

Speech therapist was running 10 minutes behind, fortunately, not a big deal, but I was tired, I didn’t want to be running behind tonight of all nights.  Sigh.  On the way out of the office, I called Seth to see what his status was – it was nearly six o’clock… he should have been halfway home.  He didn’t answer his cell phone, so I paged him.  And he called me back.  From his office number.

“What on earth are you still doing in Baltimore??”
“Well, if you’ll give me a chance, I’ll tell you what happened.”

His car wouldn’t start.  And someone in the garage tried to jumpstart the battery, but no dice.  Le Sigh.  Fortunately, it was a Tuesday.  We have a babysitter on Tuesdays.  So I got the J-man home, got Ellie her nebulizer treatment and her prednisone, got the babies to bed, got the J-man his dinner, packed up my things, and headed to Baltimore to rescue my husband, who meanwhile had called Roadside Assist to tow his car (they wouldn’t tow all the way back home, but would tow somewhere close to his work to someplace that would replace the battery the next day… he just needed me to pick him up so that he could get home for the night). 

Half-way to Baltimore, he called and said, “A miracle happened – Roadside Assist was able to get my car started.” 

Needless to say, I still made the man take me to dinner.

Wednesday Doesn’t Get Much Better
I woke up Wednesday feeling like I had been hit by a truck.  Worse, Abby woke up sounding like she’d been hit by a truck.  Poor baby.  She was wheezing, coughing, struggling for air.  I made a mid-afternoon appointment for her with the pediatrician. 

And by mid-afternoon?  She was fine.  That’s what tends to happen with these things, by the way.  Worst at night and first thing in the morning.  Clear up during the day.  Le Sigh.

By evening, Abby was just awful.  She was wheezing, gasping for air, coughing.  She couldn’t sleep.  She screamed so much, she went hoarse by the next morning.  She was miserable.  Finally, we paged the doctor and gave her a nebulizer treatment which seemed to help.

Now I wonder if I have two babies with reactive airway disease.  It’s certainly not outside the realm of possibility, since they were both premature babies, and premature babies are obviously predisposed to respiratory issues, though as premature babies go, they were very healthy and escaped most of the respiratory issues that many premature babies have, since they were triplets (premature HOMs, especially ones born as late as mine were, tend to  have more mature lungs than premature singletons because they get more respiratory stimulation in utero than singletons do). 

Which Brings Us to Today
Everyone is recovering, including Mommy.  It’s just been a rough week.  I just wish there were more hours to sleep.  I keep saying maybe tomorrow, but then the other shoe drops.  Gosh, I have a lot of shoes. 

The Good News:

  • Currently, none of my children are in the hospital, and they are all on the mend.
  • My husband’s car has been repaired.  We had a lovely dinner in Baltimore.
  • My car sustained no damage in the minor accident I had.  J-man was also unharmed.
  • J-man made it to Speech Therapy on Tuesday and had a successful (if bouncy) session.
  • I’m married to a delightful, wonderful man who takes care of me when I’m at my wits’ end.
  • I have so many supportive and wonderful friends, and such wonderful family. 
  • I am very blessed.

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This has been a month full of hard news.  The loss of the second twin of a member of our multiples club.  The catastrophic fire in the triplet family's house.  And now…  something I can't even understand, and something I can hardly even write about, for I am just sick over it.

My friend Yael's 5 month old daughter died last night.  She died in an accident, without warning, while Yael was at work.  She was rushed to the hospital, but it was too late, and there was nothing that could be done to save her. 

How can any mother ever surive the pain of such a loss?  How can anyone ever explain the loss of a child?  How can we explain a God who rips away a child from her mother after only 154 days together?  How dare He?  How could He be so cruel? I have heard all the explanations.  I know that many believe that her neshama (soul) completed what she needed to complete her on earth and is now closer to Hashem (God).  That she was so special that she only needed to be here briefly to touch the lives that she touched before moving closer to Hashem.  I've heard it.  I know that so many feel comfort in these thoughts.   I know that I'm supposed to believe these things.  I know that I'm supposed to hold on to these things.  But all I can feel is horror at the idea that idea that there is any  right or justification in ripping a child from her mother. 

I held my babies close tonight.  They squirmed and tried to get away, because they didn't understand.  But I held them tight.  I squeezed the J-man a little longer when I said good night and he asked me why and I told him it was because I love him so much and he said, "but if you always hug me so long I won't be able to breathe!"  I suppose there is more wisdom in that statement than he will ever realize.  Still, it was hard to let go of any of my children tonight.

If Yael's baby could be ripped from her last night with no warning, with no justification, with no reason, with no fairness – well, I can't even finish my thought.  It's too horrible to even say it. 

I don't even know what to think or feel.  I'm angry.  I'm heartbroken.  I'm just… I don't even know. 

I think I'll be offline for a bit.  I've got a lot going on right now – the Petrucelli Relief.  My own work.  My own family.  My class.  Meetings.  Appointments.  Therapy for the kids (did I mention the triplets are getting speech therapy now?)   Now this.  I just don't have it in me to be blogging about too much right now.   Don't assume that radio silence means there's anything wrong – it just means I'm swamped.

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I stayed home sick yesterday, what with the obvious breast infection.  Whenever I stay home sick, my nanny ends up sick or injured or whatnot.  Yesterday it wasn’t she that ended up sick, but her niece, for whom she is the primary caregiver.  Obviously, she had to leave if her niece was throwing up and sick and had a fever and whatnot.  Poor M but also Poor Karen.

This morning, M called to say that her niece has chicken pox. 

Let’s review.

Point the first:  Karen’s babies are 10.5 months old.  Babies receive the chicken pox vaccine at 12 months old (and another booster sometime later, I can’t remember when).

Point the second:  Karen is not immune to chicken pox.

Point the third:  Karen’s nanny has never, to her knowledge, had chicken pox OR the chicken pox vaccine.

Point the fourth:  The incubation period for chicken pox is 8-21 days.  Let’s average it out and call it 14 days. 

Point the fifth:  Regardless of the incubation period, her niece will need care and will not be able to return to her babysitter until she herself no longer has active chicken pox lesions, about a week. 

This, suffice it to say, has not been a good week.  I haven’t even gotten a shower yet today.  For the good of mankind, I must get a shower today!

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