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Ellie finally lost her Failure to Thrive Diagnosis! We can start weaning her from the 28cal/oz bottles and she can be nursed as often as I want when I’m home and she’s healthy and perfect and best of all I don’t have to bring her back to the doctor for SIX WHOLE WEEKS to be checked up on! Hopefully she’ll maintain her terrific growth without the 28cal/oz fortification. In fact, actually, the doctor said he wants to see her growth slow slightly, because he doesn’t want her curve to be so steep forever. She’s done a great job with the catch up growth and now it’s time for her to level out like the NORMAL BABY that she is!!

Hopefully she’ll still do okay after we wean off the 28 cal food… the last time we dropped down off the 28 cal, she lost weight pretty quickly, but that was then, this is now, so I will assume that different circumstances will yield a different result. And if she doesn’t do well with the drop down, we’ll find another solution.

Ellie is 14 pounds, Abby is 14 1/2 pounds and Sam is just about 16 pounds. Ellie is finally on the charts in the 4th percentile for weight, which puts Abby in the 5th percentile and Sam in the 7th. None of them are on the charts for height yet, but they’re getting there. The percentiles are rough approximations, incidentally, so take them with a grain of salt.

I had a great visit today with Jessica and her five little monkeys. Pictures to come in a subsequent post!

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Ellie finally lost her Failure to Thrive Diagnosis! We can start weaning her from the 28cal/oz bottles and she can be nursed as often as I want when I'm home and she's healthy and perfect and best of all I don't have to bring her back to the doctor for SIX WHOLE WEEKS to be checked up on! Hopefully she'll maintain her terrific growth without the 28cal/oz fortification. In fact, actually, the doctor said he wants to see her growth slow slightly, because he doesn't want her curve to be so steep forever. She's done a great job with the catch up growth and now it's time for her to level out like the NORMAL BABY that she is!!

Hopefully she'll still do okay after we wean off the 28 cal food… the last time we dropped down off the 28 cal, she lost weight pretty quickly, but that was then, this is now, so I will assume that different circumstances will yield a different result. And if she doesn't do well with the drop down, we'll find another solution.

Ellie is 14 pounds, Abby is 14 1/2 pounds and Sam is just about 16 pounds. Ellie is finally on the charts in the 4th percentile for weight, which puts Abby in the 5th percentile and Sam in the 7th. None of them are on the charts for height yet, but they're getting there. The percentiles are rough approximations, incidentally, so take them with a grain of salt.

I had a great visit today with Jessica and her five little monkeys. Pictures to come in a subsequent post!

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I’ve been taking Ellie to the doctor every single week because she’s been pretty stubborn about the growth thing… after that first week when she grew 18 ounces in 10 days, she stalled completely and stopped growing for a couple weeks. Sigh. BUT! Today, finally, my little Ellie bellie seems to be back on an upturn. She is over 9 pounds now, which still puts her way behind her siblings, but she’s finally making some progress. She’s the only baby that hasn’t tripled her birth weight yet, but at least she’s doubled it. The good news is that I don’t have to go back until March 11th, which seems like an eternity. Dr. B. said I can come back sooner if I get a sense that she’s slowing down again or she starts striking again, but if I have the sense that she’s continuing to grow and she’s continuing to improve, we can hold off for another 2+ weeks. Unbelievable.

Meanwhile, Abby and Sam continue to grow, but that’s no shocker. Abby’s got a new nighttime pattern for eating. She used to go to sleep after her 6 or 7pm feedig and sleep until about 2am and then eat and go back to sleep until about 6am. Lately, though, she’s been waking up at 11pm starving (which is ridiculous, because we’ve actually started feeding her more than we had been). So we feed her at 11pm and then she either sleeps through the night or wakes up around 4, which isn’t that far off of when we have to wake up anyway. But it’s weird, and I’m not sure why she’s changed her pattern. It’s not that big a deal, but it’s new.

Sam never stops eating. Dr. B. says that he’s big enough that he should be able to sleep through the night now (calorically speaking), but every night at 2am, 4am, 5am, and 6am I have the same conversation with Sam:

Me: Dr. B. SAID you’re big enough to sleep through the night!
Sam: Mommy! Please don’t make me! I’m so hungreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! I’m wasting away! I’ll be so saaaaaad if you make me wait!
Me: But Dr. B. PROMISED ME that you’re big enough to sleep through the night!
Sam (with the saddest look possible on his face, while screaming BLOODY MURDER): MOMMY! PLEASE! You wouldn’t actually make me wait would you? I’m so hungry! Please don’t make me! Please don’t! I’m starving! Please!
Me: Well, I’m sure as heck not going to listen to screaming all night, of COURSE I’m not going to let you starve, no matter WHAT Dr. B. says.

Then after Sam’s had his fill, Ellie and I go and have the opposite conversation:

Me: Ellie, Dr. B. SAID you’re not big enough to sleep through the night!
Ellie: Mommy! Please don’t make me! I’m so sleepeeeeeeeee! I need my beauty sleep! I’ll be so saaaaaaaad if you make me wake up!
Me: But Dr. B. SAID that you need to eat more often!
Ellie (completely sleepy): *yawn* Please mommy, don’t make me…*snore*
Me: huh? wha? What time is it? Can I go back to sleep now?

And then, it’s usually time to have another conversation with Sam… But Dr. B. SAID you’re big enough to sleep through the night!

Thank heavens J sleeps through the night!

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I've been taking Ellie to the doctor every single week because she's been pretty stubborn about the growth thing… after that first week when she grew 18 ounces in 10 days, she stalled completely and stopped growing for a couple weeks. Sigh. BUT! Today, finally, my little Ellie bellie seems to be back on an upturn. She is over 9 pounds now, which still puts her way behind her siblings, but she's finally making some progress. She's the only baby that hasn't tripled her birth weight yet, but at least she's doubled it. The good news is that I don't have to go back until March 11th, which seems like an eternity. Dr. B. said I can come back sooner if I get a sense that she's slowing down again or she starts striking again, but if I have the sense that she's continuing to grow and she's continuing to improve, we can hold off for another 2+ weeks. Unbelievable.

Meanwhile, Abby and Sam continue to grow, but that's no shocker. Abby's got a new nighttime pattern for eating. She used to go to sleep after her 6 or 7pm feedig and sleep until about 2am and then eat and go back to sleep until about 6am. Lately, though, she's been waking up at 11pm starving (which is ridiculous, because we've actually started feeding her more than we had been). So we feed her at 11pm and then she either sleeps through the night or wakes up around 4, which isn't that far off of when we have to wake up anyway. But it's weird, and I'm not sure why she's changed her pattern. It's not that big a deal, but it's new.

Sam never stops eating. Dr. B. says that he's big enough that he should be able to sleep through the night now (calorically speaking), but every night at 2am, 4am, 5am, and 6am I have the same conversation with Sam:

Me: Dr. B. SAID you're big enough to sleep through the night!
Sam: Mommy! Please don't make me! I'm so hungreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! I'm wasting away! I'll be so saaaaaad if you make me wait!
Me: But Dr. B. PROMISED ME that you're big enough to sleep through the night!
Sam (with the saddest look possible on his face, while screaming BLOODY MURDER): MOMMY! PLEASE! You wouldn't actually make me wait would you? I'm so hungry! Please don't make me! Please don't! I'm starving! Please!
Me: Well, I'm sure as heck not going to listen to screaming all night, of COURSE I'm not going to let you starve, no matter WHAT Dr. B. says.

Then after Sam's had his fill, Ellie and I go and have the opposite conversation:

Me: Ellie, Dr. B. SAID you're not big enough to sleep through the night!
Ellie: Mommy! Please don't make me! I'm so sleepeeeeeeeee! I need my beauty sleep! I'll be so saaaaaaaad if you make me wake up!
Me: But Dr. B. SAID that you need to eat more often!
Ellie (completely sleepy): *yawn* Please mommy, don't make me…*snore*
Me: huh? wha? What time is it? Can I go back to sleep now?

And then, it's usually time to have another conversation with Sam… But Dr. B. SAID you're big enough to sleep through the night!

Thank heavens J sleeps through the night!

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You’re pregnant with triplets? Well, you’re obviously not going to breastfeed them, you’re going to spend a fortune on formula!

I heard that a lot when I was pregnant. Over and over, I heard unsolicited opinions from people telling me that there was no way I would ever be able to breastfeed triplets. It’s not possible, they would say. I didn’t even bother trying with my twins, I would hear. Why would you even think about it? You’ll never do anything but feed them all day long if you try! the incredulous voices would cry. They’ll be preemies. You can’t breastfeed preemies, you know.

I never expected to be the militant type…certainly not about breastfeeding, and certainly not about breastfeeding triplets. But these constant, unsolicited words of discouragement absolutely convinced me that I was going to do everything I could to breastfeed my babies, at least for the first few weeks. My premature babies were going to NEED the benefit of my colostrum and my milk for as long as I could give it to them, and I knew it wouldn’t be forever, and even during my pregnancy, I mourned the loss of the ability to just KNOW that I could breastfeed with reckless abandon, but I set a modest goal. I wanted to get 3-4 weeks of exclusive breast milk into them if I could. And if I could do that, well, we’d go for 6 weeks and after that, I would give myself permission to supplement with formula, because it would be a miracle if I made it that far.

The babies did get a little bit of formula in their first few days. My colostrum was mixed with a few cc’s of preemie formula to make up for lack of volume, but they DID get my precious drops as well. In their first 3 days they received a couple ounces of formula between the three of them. TOTAL. And then I started producing enough to feed them exclusively my milk. It helped that Abby started out with 2.5 cc feeds and Ellie and Sam started out with 4cc feeds, so the demand wasn’t huge from the start. They were still getting the bulk of their nutrition through a TPN at that point while they figured out the whole suck/swallow/breathe thing.

And on Day 4, my husband asked the nurse how long it would be before I could try actually breastfeeding my babies, and she checked with the doctor and got permission for me to breastfeed them. She helped me get set up with Sam and showed me how to hold him and support him, and I fretted about whether he’d be able to latch, but he did! He didn’t latch on for very long, but he definitely knew what to do and figured it out pretty quickly. He tired very quickly, so we gave him a feeding through his gavage tube afterward, but it was miraculous. I had no idea how amazing an experience nursing my baby could be until that moment. It felt strange and awkward and perfect and amazing all at the same time. My tiny little three and a half pound baby knew what to do and he nursed like a little champ! How incredible. And then it was time for Ellie’s feeding, but she was having a harder time, so we gave her a gavage feeding while she was nursing so that she could associate a full tummy with mommy’s breast…a technique we employed a lot with her in the NICU, actually. I was shocked at how exhausted I was after nursing just two tiny babies. Abby was still too small to try to nurse, so when her turn came, I held her skin-to-skin while giving her a gavage feeding, and then I pumped afterward while gazing at my beautiful two and a half pound angel and had the best production I’d ever had before. It was amazing to see that it was all true… being around your babies really DOES improve milk supply. Who knew?

And that was my first day breastfeeding my babies. The next day, believe it or not, I was able to breastfeed all three of them, even Abby, and I breastfed them at least twice a day every day until they left the NICU and I pumped 8-12 times per day, every day. And then, on day 24, they came home. My once champion breastfeeders suddenly would not breastfeed anymore. None of them! I continued to pump 8-10 times per day, fed them expressed milk, attempted to breastfeed them at every feed, and never slept, because of the constant fight to get them to remember how to breastfeed. I thought all was lost. I developed my second clogged duct and was in misery until it resolved. And then… a few days later I woke up with painful, red, tender, swelling in my breast, a high fever, chills, flu-like symptoms… you guessed it, mastitis! The way to get through mastitis, I’m told, is to let your baby nurse as much as possible, but my babies wouldn’t help me, so I gave up for a few days and just pumped, pumped, pumped, pumped and pumped some more. And gradually, it got better, and I was able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I thought there was no way my babies would ever return to nursing… but on the advice of a nurse, I got some nipple shields, even though lots of people told me that nipple shields would only lead to nipple confusion. Seriously…these babies were drinking from bottles, so how much more confused could they get? And lo and behold… suddenly, Ellie was nursing. Then Sam was nursing. Only Abby remained skeptical. She would latch occasionally, but would usually scream her head off at the mere mention of breastfeeding (er, that might be a SLIGHT exaggeration). And eventually I was able to rid myself of the nipple shields all together and I had two, perfectly normal nursing babies and one baby who would not nurse, but who still received only expressed breast milk.

I called the pump my FOURTH baby, because I spent as much time with her (I named her Maggie) as I did with my three babies, in order to make sure I always had enough milk for Abby. And pump, I did. I was able to reduce to 6-8 times per day without changing the amount I was producing, since I was nursing so much, and I still got lots of snuggle time with my beautiful Abby. Even today I still try to give her the opportunity to nurse occasionally, but she still hates it. She’s got a tongue-tie, and has a really hard time latching, so it’s not shocking that she won’t nurse, but it’s a little disappointing.

My babies will be five months old next week and today, for the first time, I’m faced with the need to supplement them with formula. I’ve finished my stash of milk in the freezer. And I’m pumping like mad. But I’m producing 40-45 ounces of milk per day in addition to whatever they get via nursing directly, and the three babies together are eating 52 ounces of milk per day, so I’m falling a little bit short on the supply. I’ve tried everything… domperidone, fenugreek, blessed thistle, some weird herbal concoction, reglan, oatmeal, breast compression before and during pumping… but I just can’t produce more than I’m producing now, without adding additional pumping sessions in each day. I’m pumping about 6-7 times per day right now, and if I pump any more than that, I’ll probably lose my job.

A piece of me feels like a big, giant failure, even though I’m obviously not going to STOP breastfeeding and pumping at this point. I’m not sure when my 6 week breastfeeding goal turned into a 3 month goal, or when that 3 month goal turned into a 6 month goal, or when that 6 month goal turned into a 6-month-adjusted goal, but I know now that I’ll breastfeed as long as I can, as much as I can until they’re a year old, and then I’ll work on weaning them before moving on to my next round of fertility treatments. I’m not getting any younger, but I do want at least one more chance at this pregnancy thing. And I want my children to have lots of siblings. I had only one and he loathes me, so I’ve been determined my whole life to make sure that my children are surrounded with a big brood. They don’t all have to like each other (though that would be nice), but at least the odds are good that they’ll each find SOMEONE to love in the family.

But I digress. I do feel like I’m failing my children, though I don’t feel that way toward any other woman who feeds their babies formula. I’ve told countless mothers of multiples that they should not ever beat themselves up over their breastfeeding decisions because it’s HARD, and sometimes darned near impossible. And I know I should celebrate my five months of accomplishment, rather than focusing on my failure to continue the same pace, but I just can’t get past it. I know very few women who made it through five months of feeding triplets only breast milk… so I should be thrilled, right?

But then this morning, the first morning that I was guaranteed that the babies weren’t going to have enough of my own milk for the day, the guilt poured on. I thought it would be wise to try giving Abby a bottle of formula while there was still breastmilk in the fridge, just in case she didn’t like it. After all… what would we do if she refused it and there were no other options? So when the nanny arrived this morning, I handed her a bottle of formula (no way was I going to be the one to give her the yucky stuff). Sure enough, Abby screamed her little head off. My poor persnickety Abby wanted NOTHING to do with the formula. NOTHING. I thought maybe she just wasn’t hungry, but we gave her a bottle of breastmilk and, sure enough, she gobbled it right up. Sigh. Sam, fortunately, had no problem drinking the formula, little piggy that he is. Next week, I’ll try making 50/50 bottles and see what happens with Abby, but oh gosh, my heart was breaking knowing how much she hated the taste of the formula! I was completely failing my child! Thank heavens I tried it out while there were still options!

In a couple months, we’ll be starting them with some solids, and eventually their consumption of milk each day will go down slightly, so I may actually be able to return to being able to feed them 100% breast milk. But for now, each of them will probably get 2-4 ounces of formula each day. And I know that’s still pretty amazing on my part. And I know there’s nothing to be done, and no way for me to get around it.

And once again, I feel like a failure. Once again, I feel like my body is betraying me. It’s infertility all over again, even though I know that logically, this is the polar opposite of infertility. Somehow, I simply MUST make myself okay with supplementing, because there’s really nothing wrong with it. It won’t hurt my babies. They’ll still grow and they’ll still be healthy. I’ll still be able to fortify for the extra calories that Ellie needs. I’ll still be able to breast feed any time I’m home and feed them breast milk most of the time. 2-4 ounces per day just isn’t the end of the world, so why do I feel like the world’s worst mommy?

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Also, a quick update on Ellie… at her appointment yesterday she hadn’t gained any weight, but on Wednesday we were able to convince her to start taking 120 ml bottles, so we’re hoping another week of that will be enough to boost her back toward gaining. Bigger babies need more calories to grow, of course, so hopefully that’s all that’s going on. For the moment, she is a bit of an enigma, but she’s definitely improving. She’s more alert, and smiling and cooing almost as much as Abby now. She looks good, but is still far more sleepy than the other two. We’ll go back in a week to see how she’s improved.

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You're pregnant with triplets? Well, you're obviously not going to breastfeed them, you're going to spend a fortune on formula!

I heard that a lot when I was pregnant. Over and over, I heard unsolicited opinions from people telling me that there was no way I would ever be able to breastfeed triplets. It's not possible, they would say. I didn't even bother trying with my twins, I would hear. Why would you even think about it? You'll never do anything but feed them all day long if you try! the incredulous voices would cry. They'll be preemies. You can't breastfeed preemies, you know.

I never expected to be the militant type…certainly not about breastfeeding, and certainly not about breastfeeding triplets. But these constant, unsolicited words of discouragement absolutely convinced me that I was going to do everything I could to breastfeed my babies, at least for the first few weeks. My premature babies were going to NEED the benefit of my colostrum and my milk for as long as I could give it to them, and I knew it wouldn't be forever, and even during my pregnancy, I mourned the loss of the ability to just KNOW that I could breastfeed with reckless abandon, but I set a modest goal. I wanted to get 3-4 weeks of exclusive breast milk into them if I could. And if I could do that, well, we'd go for 6 weeks and after that, I would give myself permission to supplement with formula, because it would be a miracle if I made it that far.

The babies did get a little bit of formula in their first few days. My colostrum was mixed with a few cc's of preemie formula to make up for lack of volume, but they DID get my precious drops as well. In their first 3 days they received a couple ounces of formula between the three of them. TOTAL. And then I started producing enough to feed them exclusively my milk. It helped that Abby started out with 2.5 cc feeds and Ellie and Sam started out with 4cc feeds, so the demand wasn't huge from the start. They were still getting the bulk of their nutrition through a TPN at that point while they figured out the whole suck/swallow/breathe thing.

And on Day 4, my husband asked the nurse how long it would be before I could try actually breastfeeding my babies, and she checked with the doctor and got permission for me to breastfeed them. She helped me get set up with Sam and showed me how to hold him and support him, and I fretted about whether he'd be able to latch, but he did! He didn't latch on for very long, but he definitely knew what to do and figured it out pretty quickly. He tired very quickly, so we gave him a feeding through his gavage tube afterward, but it was miraculous. I had no idea how amazing an experience nursing my baby could be until that moment. It felt strange and awkward and perfect and amazing all at the same time. My tiny little three and a half pound baby knew what to do and he nursed like a little champ! How incredible. And then it was time for Ellie's feeding, but she was having a harder time, so we gave her a gavage feeding while she was nursing so that she could associate a full tummy with mommy's breast…a technique we employed a lot with her in the NICU, actually. I was shocked at how exhausted I was after nursing just two tiny babies. Abby was still too small to try to nurse, so when her turn came, I held her skin-to-skin while giving her a gavage feeding, and then I pumped afterward while gazing at my beautiful two and a half pound angel and had the best production I'd ever had before. It was amazing to see that it was all true… being around your babies really DOES improve milk supply. Who knew?

And that was my first day breastfeeding my babies. The next day, believe it or not, I was able to breastfeed all three of them, even Abby, and I breastfed them at least twice a day every day until they left the NICU and I pumped 8-12 times per day, every day. And then, on day 24, they came home. My once champion breastfeeders suddenly would not breastfeed anymore. None of them! I continued to pump 8-10 times per day, fed them expressed milk, attempted to breastfeed them at every feed, and never slept, because of the constant fight to get them to remember how to breastfeed. I thought all was lost. I developed my second clogged duct and was in misery until it resolved. And then… a few days later I woke up with painful, red, tender, swelling in my breast, a high fever, chills, flu-like symptoms… you guessed it, mastitis! The way to get through mastitis, I'm told, is to let your baby nurse as much as possible, but my babies wouldn't help me, so I gave up for a few days and just pumped, pumped, pumped, pumped and pumped some more. And gradually, it got better, and I was able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I thought there was no way my babies would ever return to nursing… but on the advice of a nurse, I got some nipple shields, even though lots of people told me that nipple shields would only lead to nipple confusion. Seriously…these babies were drinking from bottles, so how much more confused could they get? And lo and behold… suddenly, Ellie was nursing. Then Sam was nursing. Only Abby remained skeptical. She would latch occasionally, but would usually scream her head off at the mere mention of breastfeeding (er, that might be a SLIGHT exaggeration). And eventually I was able to rid myself of the nipple shields all together and I had two, perfectly normal nursing babies and one baby who would not nurse, but who still received only expressed breast milk.

I called the pump my FOURTH baby, because I spent as much time with her (I named her Maggie) as I did with my three babies, in order to make sure I always had enough milk for Abby. And pump, I did. I was able to reduce to 6-8 times per day without changing the amount I was producing, since I was nursing so much, and I still got lots of snuggle time with my beautiful Abby. Even today I still try to give her the opportunity to nurse occasionally, but she still hates it. She's got a tongue-tie, and has a really hard time latching, so it's not shocking that she won't nurse, but it's a little disappointing.

My babies will be five months old next week and today, for the first time, I'm faced with the need to supplement them with formula. I've finished my stash of milk in the freezer. And I'm pumping like mad. But I'm producing 40-45 ounces of milk per day in addition to whatever they get via nursing directly, and the three babies together are eating 52 ounces of milk per day, so I'm falling a little bit short on the supply. I've tried everything… domperidone, fenugreek, blessed thistle, some weird herbal concoction, reglan, oatmeal, breast compression before and during pumping… but I just can't produce more than I'm producing now, without adding additional pumping sessions in each day. I'm pumping about 6-7 times per day right now, and if I pump any more than that, I'll probably lose my job.

A piece of me feels like a big, giant failure, even though I'm obviously not going to STOP breastfeeding and pumping at this point. I'm not sure when my 6 week breastfeeding goal turned into a 3 month goal, or when that 3 month goal turned into a 6 month goal, or when that 6 month goal turned into a 6-month-adjusted goal, but I know now that I'll breastfeed as long as I can, as much as I can until they're a year old, and then I'll work on weaning them before moving on to my next round of fertility treatments. I'm not getting any younger, but I do want at least one more chance at this pregnancy thing. And I want my children to have lots of siblings. I had only one and he loathes me, so I've been determined my whole life to make sure that my children are surrounded with a big brood. They don't all have to like each other (though that would be nice), but at least the odds are good that they'll each find SOMEONE to love in the family.

But I digress. I do feel like I'm failing my children, though I don't feel that way toward any other woman who feeds their babies formula. I've told countless mothers of multiples that they should not ever beat themselves up over their breastfeeding decisions because it's HARD, and sometimes darned near impossible. And I know I should celebrate my five months of accomplishment, rather than focusing on my failure to continue the same pace, but I just can't get past it. I know very few women who made it through five months of feeding triplets only breast milk… so I should be thrilled, right?

But then this morning, the first morning that I was guaranteed that the babies weren't going to have enough of my own milk for the day, the guilt poured on. I thought it would be wise to try giving Abby a bottle of formula while there was still breastmilk in the fridge, just in case she didn't like it. After all… what would we do if she refused it and there were no other options? So when the nanny arrived this morning, I handed her a bottle of formula (no way was I going to be the one to give her the yucky stuff). Sure enough, Abby screamed her little head off. My poor persnickety Abby wanted NOTHING to do with the formula. NOTHING. I thought maybe she just wasn't hungry, but we gave her a bottle of breastmilk and, sure enough, she gobbled it right up. Sigh. Sam, fortunately, had no problem drinking the formula, little piggy that he is. Next week, I'll try making 50/50 bottles and see what happens with Abby, but oh gosh, my heart was breaking knowing how much she hated the taste of the formula! I was completely failing my child! Thank heavens I tried it out while there were still options!

In a couple months, we'll be starting them with some solids, and eventually their consumption of milk each day will go down slightly, so I may actually be able to return to being able to feed them 100% breast milk. But for now, each of them will probably get 2-4 ounces of formula each day. And I know that's still pretty amazing on my part. And I know there's nothing to be done, and no way for me to get around it.

And once again, I feel like a failure. Once again, I feel like my body is betraying me. It's infertility all over again, even though I know that logically, this is the polar opposite of infertility. Somehow, I simply MUST make myself okay with supplementing, because there's really nothing wrong with it. It won't hurt my babies. They'll still grow and they'll still be healthy. I'll still be able to fortify for the extra calories that Ellie needs. I'll still be able to breast feed any time I'm home and feed them breast milk most of the time. 2-4 ounces per day just isn't the end of the world, so why do I feel like the world's worst mommy?

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Also, a quick update on Ellie… at her appointment yesterday she hadn't gained any weight, but on Wednesday we were able to convince her to start taking 120 ml bottles, so we're hoping another week of that will be enough to boost her back toward gaining. Bigger babies need more calories to grow, of course, so hopefully that's all that's going on. For the moment, she is a bit of an enigma, but she's definitely improving. She's more alert, and smiling and cooing almost as much as Abby now. She looks good, but is still far more sleepy than the other two. We'll go back in a week to see how she's improved.

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Ellie lost four ounces.

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