I saw Yet Another New OB (YANOB) today. I don’t like him, but he’s willing to take me on. He didn’t give me any crap about a VBAC, nor about not wanting an epidural in place (provided that I understand that in the event of an emergency C-section, if they can’t get a spinal in, they’ll do general anesthesia and my husband won’t be present at the delivery. Frankly, that’s the least of my concerns – and anyway, if I don’t get to be there, why should he? We’ll have a lifetime to bond with the baby, so in the unlikely event of an emergency, I’m willing to forgo those few minutes).
He talks fast and doesn’t really act like he’s listening. He’ll ask a question, I’ll start to respond, and he’ll be talking over me before I’ve got two words out. I hate that. But so long as the perinatologist is on board, he’s willing to manage my care concurrently with them. He’s fine with me doing Progesterone injections for PTL prevention. If the perinatologist doesn’t want to order it, he will. He’s fine with the steroid course I’m on. He’s fine with my home health care company. The office staff is all really nice (at least the ones I’ve interacted with so far), which is a plus. It’s a huge practice, which in my opinion is a downside, but on the other hand, it also probably contributes to why they didn’t shy away from taking me on.
I just wish I had the luxury of picking a doctor that I like. Meh. I guess it doesn’t really matter.
He doesn’t deliver at the hospital that’s five minutes away (where Seth works, for crying out loud). So I’ll have to go half an hour (or more, with traffic) away to deliver, but I’ll live. It’s a fine hospital to deliver at, so I don’t really have an issue with that – it’s just way less convenient and frustrating because it would have been nice to be at the hospital my husband works for, but beggars can’t be choosers.
So, yay?
I wish I were more excited about it than I am. I would probably be more excited if I’d loved him, but I don’t. Oh well. I’m seeing my perinatologist tomorrow, and then back to YANOB in two weeks. We’ll see how it goes. At least I have someone I can call if something goes wrong now…
Um, that’s not an invitation for something else to go wrong.
ChezPerky 
It stinks to feel like a beggar who can’t choose what she needs! Listen, when you see the perinatologist tomorrow, don’t just say you’ve got an OB and are all set, tell him everything you’ve told us here, you never know, he might decide that it would be better if he covers you, that just because this OB is willing to take you isn’t reason enough. I mean, this wasn’t someone he recommended, you still have to ask him this guy’s willing to take me on is it a good choice? Unless he thinks you are thrilled with the guy, if he himself isn’t, since he cares about you, he might just want the best for you. On the other hand, the OB being fine with everything as you describe sounds good, and maybe with it being a big practice there will be other doctors there that you like? I’ve been reminded recently that doctors who seem good at first can turn out not to be. Somehow though you seem to be able to have generaly fruitful meetings with doctors with agenda covered even if the outcomes are negative and not the pointless whirlwinds I have, I must be doing something wrong, I go in and pay money and am processed and get no help no useful information no solutions just disrespect and humiliation and judgement and lectures and misunderstanding and stupid directions that don’t address problems and nothing actually covered and time’s up sorry wait what was accomplished here I came in and paid money for what and hours of thinking about after over what could have said and what didn’t get done and feeling confused and violated and like a fool and a chump. How do you do it?
Well I’m glad that there is someone there when needed etc although it’s too bad that he’s not the likable type. I hope it all ends up being ok anyways.
i’m glad you have someone, but wish you liked them! at least you know you have people you can rely on though, right? i hope you are feeling better.
Glad you found a new OB… wish you liked him, though. I’m sure once he gets to know you, he’ll warm up to you.
My perinatologist (I only had a peri, not an OB, too) was SUCH A JERK (fortunately, his partner was great and she took me on at the end) but I knew he was a good doctor so I “sucked it up”… it still sucked but I knew he was competent at least.
Sorry to hear that you were left in the lurch by your stupid and irresponsible doctors. I too had a high risk pregnancy and severe hyperemisis gravidum. I had an OB who I liked ok but did not love, but he took good care of me and I had a good outcome. Also had a perinatologist who I
absolutely loved and he was beyond wonderful. They are both in the DC area (Rockville)….OB/GYN was Steve Behram (Shady Grove and Holy Cross Hospitals—his wife Nancy is also an OB/GYN). He was a solo practitioner when I delivered but is now part of a 2-3 doctor team. Wayne Kramer was my perinatologist and he was part of a group but now practices solo. He was the best out of that group and one of the best doctors I have ever dealt with. He was teamed up with Sherri Hammersly who was also good…not sure why the group split up. Anyway I hope you find good doctors to see you through a healthy pregnancy and safe delivery. I wish you and your family all the best. Mazel Tov!!!
I am so relieved you’ve actually got an ob, though! Even if it’s less than ideal circumstances.
Hope you’re starting to turn the corner and feel better, too.
Bea